How To Improve The Sexual Life In The Couple Relationship
In the initial moments of a relationship, we are constantly accompanied by sexual stimulation and the desire for an intimate connection with our partner. However, sexual activity and desire decline after a few years with the same partner in most people.
Interest diminishes, encounters prolong, libido enters a state of progressive lethargy that can reduce sexual activity to a mere random process of unwanted and pleasurable relationships.
At best, love replaces infatuation, the original passion gives way to attachment, but the attraction to the other as a sexual object and subject disappears.
Throughout a person’s life, the intensity sexual desire. These fluctuations are within the normal range. Lack of sexual desire can be caused by several factors:
- daily stress
- Lack of sleep
- Health problems
- Hormonal imbalance
- drug use
- Arrival of children
- Communication failure
One of the most common reasons for a decrease or loss of sexual desire in a couple is a state of mind and predisposition. And the fact is that both scientific research and psychotherapeutic practice show that boredom and sexual monotony are the most common factors that cause sex to fade away even in couples who continue to love each other.
The main human sexual organ is the brain, above the genitals and erogenous zones. Boredom – which in this case corresponds to what is psychologically called “addictive”.
This happens when the surprise factor and the ability to seduce disappear from the couple’s sexual activity. This explains the reason why, in most couples, sexual desire gradually decreases after a period of relationship, until it reaches, in some cases, inhibition of desire or suppression of sexual life.
Lack of passion or lack of sex drive does not always affect both members of the couple equally. The most normal thing is that for one of the parties it fades, while the other continues to want a relationship.
When a couple’s sex life disappears or becomes a half-hearted practice that is done mechanically and with diminished or suppressed pleasure, it becomes a problem.
In order to have a satisfying sex life in a long-term relationship, we must consider the following considerations:
Sustained Desire in Relationships Doesn’t Magically Work
The myth of spontaneity, everything that should happen only happens in a long-term relationship deliberately, with will and premeditation. Over time, the power of strong attraction and spontaneous arousal is lost, which requires us to deliberately develop this impulse instead of trusting that the moment, circumstances, or the alignment of the stars will re-ignite the spark of desire.
In long-term relationships, sexuality and emotions often go hand in hand.
For this reason, it is important to strengthen attachment outside of sexual contact and to cultivate factors conducive to a positive emotional climate that facilitates bonding with a couple.
Turning sex into a pre-cooked and bland dish should be avoided.
It also cannot be attributed to the weekend procedure: sex is well-being and pleasure, not an obligation. However, it will be necessary to know how to respect natural time and acknowledge that relationships may go through periods of lesser sexual activity. Sex is good, but more sex is not better. The urge to have high frequency sex can be stressful.
Sexuality is more than intercourse and orgasm.
We must live a more global sexuality. A sexual relationship doesn’t have to end with an orgasm to be satisfying. Sensuality may be present in the day-to-day activities of our couple relationships. Foreplay is not something you do five minutes before intercourse. Foreplay should begin at the end of the last orgasm.
Stay sexually awake (connect with our autosexuality) and maintain a sexual interest in the other.
To have a satisfying sex life, it is not necessary to do many different things or try the entire repertoire of techniques presented to us in the literature or in images on the Internet or other media.
However, if we do not want to lead a meaningless sex life. It is convenient to avoid routine and deviation from the planned scenario and perpetuate every sexual relationship.
Everything becomes normal and soothing in sex when customs or the same habits are repeated without change. Maintaining erotic stimulation requires renewal of the force of attraction.
Human sexuality is not fixed
Our preferences may change over time, or you may just want to try something new at some point. It is important to develop healthy sexual communication so as not to take for granted what our partner likes.